Know Yourself to Get What You Want in Life
Do you think you know yourself? Most people will answer yes to that question. On the surface, they know certain aspects about themselves. For instance, people may know how they would react if placed in a particular circumstance, etc. However, what they say and what they do can be quite different. People may believe they are good listeners when in fact, they are not.
Getting to truly know yourself requires you to take a step back. It’s almost as if you could lift your spirit outside your body, just to observe your actions. It requires taking an honest look at your actions and thoughts. We are not accustomed to doing this, so it will take a bit to get used to.
If you have a close friend, you can ask them to be brutally honest with you about how they think about you. For instance, if you are a person who thinks you take criticism well, your friend may tell you otherwise. The way you react will confirm whether or not it’s true. If you get bent out of shape based on what he or she said, it’s time to do some reflecting.
You may find aspects about you that are positive, and you didn’t realize it. For instance, you may be a good listener but never thought of yourself in that way. Your friend may tell you that he or she loves to talk to you because you listen to what they say without judging them.
If you find some flaws that are getting in the way of your success, don’t beat yourself up. We are a product of our environments. People spend their lives listening to negative news and chatter. It’s no wonder we develop this as being a normal way to think.
If you curb negative thoughts, you may find other aspects of your life fall into place. Instead of excuses, you will look for solutions. People will become drawn to you because of your positive attitude. There may still be some negative people in your life. But, you will find you won’t want to spend as much time with them. Negative people only attract other negative people and repel anyone who is positive. You can either try to bring them around to thinking more positively or simply move on and ignore them whenever possible.
When people start to introspect, they realize they aren’t perfect. But, they also start to recognize that change is needed, and take the appropriate steps to enact that change.